Trouble with bullies
By CHERI RAUSER
Monday, March 25, 2002 – Print Edition, Page A14
Vancouver -- Too-early peer
orientation is responsible for much of the bullying that is going on.
However, Dr. Gabor Maté should be careful about blaming parents for
children being targeted by bullies (There Is A Cure For Bullying --
My kindergarten-age daughter was physically assaulted repeatedly by
another child last fall. We tried to address the problem within the
school and the attached daycare only to be given excuses for the other
child's behaviour and have it pointed out that our daughter didn't
exhibit appropriate peer orientation behaviour: meaning that she looked
to adults for protection and reassurance, as she has been taught by the
bonded adults in her life.
In December, we moved her to a bilingual public school where there is
an enforced code of conduct, where there are teachers who are in control
of the classroom, who provide guidance and protection when needed and
who are not afraid to have children attach to them emotionally.
After a few rough weeks, our daughter has regained much of her social
self-confidence and is learning to trust caregivers again.
My failure as a parent was in not removing her from the other school